Wednesday, December 2, 2009

KIDSAKE Newsletter

KIDSAKE NEWSLETTER

NOVEMBER 2009

 

A Newsletter For Birthmothers, Adoptive Parent, Adoptees

& Adoption Professionals

 

Brought to you by:

Patricia Dischler

Author, Speaker, Child Care Professional, Birthmother

 

www.patriciadischler.com

 

 

In this issue:

 

1.  Pieces of Me

2. Parent Corner

3. In The News

4. This Month’s Sale Item

5. Upcoming Events

 

I apologize for getting this out so late! November has been a crazy month for me, my new book “Teaching the 3 Cs” was released and I’ve been at speaking events for the book for weeks in a row, not my typical routine. I’ve been so thrilled with the positive response to the book! I’ve been so busy with my “child care hat” on the past few weeks, I almost forgot about another great book I was honored to be a part of – Pieces of Me, Who Do I Want To Be? by EMK Press, is a collection of stories, poems and artwork for adopted teens to help them in their journey to discovering themselves. My story, “I Just Missed You”, was included in the book. I must say I was really overwhelmed with surprise at how wonderful this book turned out! The stories, especially those written by adopted teens, are so poignant, and heartwarming, sometimes heart breaking. It really opened my eyes to what it must be like to be an adopted teen. I highly recommend this book to every adopted parent and counselor out there, regardless of the age of child you are working with. Eventually, they all grow up to be teens, and it is a developmental fact that what happens to them in early childhood affects how they will see themselves as teens and adults. There is so much in this book that will surprise you. We like to think that as long as we love our children, everything else won’t matter – but you will see I this book that it does. Be prepared to fully understand your child – this book can help.

Patricia

 

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Book Review: PIECES OF ME

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Cover to cover, staying true to its teen audience, Pieces of Me shares real stories of adoption from many points of view and helps the reader to fit together the puzzle of who they are as an adopted teen. Poignant, funny, heartwarming and almost shockingly honest, the poetry, prose, artwork and photos work together as pieces of a puzzle to form a picture of the lives of teens that happen to be adopted. Stories range from joyful to tragic, and where adoption is central to the puzzle or a piece only on the edges; each helping the reader to figure out how to place their own pieces of who they are.

 

The puzzle analogy used throughout the book perfectly illustrates the variances of struggles of teens. Editor Robert “Bert” Ballard does an excellent job of organizing the text and integrating the puzzle theme. In the introduction he shares, “There are many ways to put the puzzle of who you are together; there are many ways to fit your pieces together. And only you can figure it out.” Chapter titles such as “Stolen Pieces” and “Sharing the Pieces” allow the reader to go directly to the chapter that focuses on the issue they are struggling with the most.

 

Entries are written by all members of the adoption triad (adoptees, adoptive parents and birth families) and range from young children to older adults, but all written to speak directly to the teen reader with deep respect. The accompanying photos, artwork and activities pages add another sensory level to the experience, which overall, leaves the reader feeling as though they just spent an afternoon sharing deeply held thoughts and emotions with a dear friend.

 

Because the book shares so much insight on being an adopted teen, the questions they struggle with, the prejudices they encounter, and the hopes and fears they hold in their hearts, the book is also an excellent resource for adoptive parents and counselors who work with teens. The book clearly identifies common fears of adoptees: fear of the unknowns regarding birth families, fear of discussing these feelings with their adoptive parents, fears of not being able to “blend in” with families, friends, community. The honest portrayal of these fears and questions are very effective in giving insight to these teens and providing support to those who may be experiencing similar dilemmas. A testament to the importance of open adoption, the book shares the hundreds of unanswered questions teens have regarding their birth and often are too afraid to ask someone. As one teen put it, “I felt the past was an important part of me.” And another, “No matter how bad the reality, you need to be told the truth.”

 

Some excerpts from the book:

“My story, like the stories of thousands of others, is a legacy of unknowns. What I didn’t understand is why the individuals who should have been my biological Korean family abandoned me. The questions were endless. They have taunted me relentlessly throughout my entire life, despite my attempts to silence them. Until a counselor shared this with me: “I am here to let you know you were not abandoned, you were left to be found. Whomever was faced with the difficult choice of choosing adoption for you, made sure that you were placed somewhere where you would be found.”

 

“I was torn between loyalties for my adoptive parents and my biological parents. I felt ashamed that I loved somebody I didn’t even know as much as the people who have raised me for almost my entire life.”

 

“Something was off, but I couldn’t place exactly what. I then realized it was me. I was the thing that was off. Me, with my dark chocolate skin, my midnight black hair, and don’t forget the warm brown eyes. I am the only one with the physical characteristics that offset everybody else. I am dark to their light. My friends were the best friends anybody could have, but still I was different.”

 

Above all, the book clarifies that everyone’s “puzzle” will be unique, and how they choose to piece this puzzle together is completely up to them. There is no one right way. The blunt honesty and supportive theme of Pieces of Me make it one of the beset adoption books on the market today. A must read for every adopted teen and those that support them!

 

Get your copy NOW at www.patriciadischler.com!

 

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PARENT CORNER: Holiday Fun

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There is a simple formula to ensure that your children get through this holiday season with minimal meltdowns and tantrums: make it fun! Children who are bored, tend to have behaviors adults dislike. I’ve seen countless parents dragging their children through the mall at this time of year, the kids crying, pulling away from them, all while I’m walking through the mall with eight children who are smiling, staying close by me, and enjoying the day. The difference? The priority for the parents was to get some shopping done, my priority was to have some fun. By looking at the trip to the mall from the children’s point of view, understanding what they need from it to be happy, and incorporating this into the trip, we had a recipe for success. Children typically don’t like having to walk slowly, for long lengths, surrounded by “big people” that are all strangers. It’s dull, it’s physically tiring, and it can even be scary. If instead, a parent makes it an adventure, you can turn all of this around.

 

First, pretend the mall is not a mall. Pretend it is an alien planet! Next, don’t just walk through it, walk backwards, hop, skip, or hold your arms out and pretend to fly! Change the pace from slow to fast, to ultra slow. Pretend all those “big people” are aliens ( some of the big coats or funny hats people wear make it pretty easy to do!) Be on a mission. Have a list, or better yet, cards with pictures on it of the things you are looking for, give them to the children so they can be in on the search. Use the opportunity to get in some learning – the mall is filled with numbers (prices, amounts), colors and shapes. Find ones that match, add numbers together, see how many different colors you can name. The biggest tip – don’t rush. Children love to take the time to explore their world, not fly through it. Take time to look at the window displays, to giggle together at the silly things and admire the beautiful. Make it as much an outing for them as it is for you and you’re sure to have a great time together!

 

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IN THE NEWS

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Gift of Adoption Fund: Financial Resources for Adopting Families

I had the pleasure this past month to meet with board members from the Wisconsin chapter of the Gift of Adoption Fund to find out more about this organization. I found that they are not only a compassionate, philanthropic group, but also very committed to their cause, which is to provide the funding necessary for adoptions facing difficulty in finalization to get through those last hurdles and come to a happy ending. I highly recommend that adoptive parents and counselors check out their website: www.giftofadoption.org. During our conversations I heard how they have worked very hard to obtain funding to pass on to adoptive parents, yet their difficulty has been in finding families to award these grants to! It seems unbelievable, but they actually have areas here in Wisconsin where the money is available and no one has applied for the grant. I’d like to do what I can to bring these two groups together – adoptive parents needing financial support and Gift of Adoption. They are not an adoption agency, and in order to apply for the grant you must be fairly into the adoption process with your agency – which is why, I think, the disconnect has happened. Parents gather so much information in the beginning of their adoption process, that once they are on the road to adoption, have a waiting child they are trying to get to, those initial resources are forgotten. Gift of Adoption was created to help families when they are facing obstacles in finalizing their adoption, such as needing to stay in a foreign country longer than planned, or prepare for a special needs child, or other financial issues. The grants help parents to get through that last bit of effort, paperwork, waiting and preparation, to make their family a reality. Their focus is on the child: helping children to get to their families as soon as possible in order to have the biggest impact on their development. This is something every counselor, agency and adoptive parent should keep in their resource file for when it’s needed. They are simply waiting for you! They are nationwide, with chapters in many states, find one near you at: www.giftofadoption.org.

 

If your organization is holding a training event, please let me know and I’ll add it to the newsletter for you!

 

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THIS MONTH’S SALE ITEMS

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November Sale Item: From Babysitter to Business Owner – 15% off!

The complete guide to professionalism for your child care business! Chapters cover every aspect, including: professional image, environment, curriculum, fieldtrips, communication with parents, creating a parent handbook, marketing and setting goals. My first book and considered the “must-have” manual by many Resource and Referral agencies across the country. Get it now and be ready to get your business on track for a successful new year in 2010! (NOTE: Makes a great gift for your child’s child care provider!)

Regular Price $17.95 Discount Price: $15.26

 

December Sale Item: The Patty Cake Preschool Parent Handbook CD – 20% off!

Get ready to start your New Year off on a fresh new foot with the parents in your program! The Parent Handbook CD is a rewritable CD with a 50 page handbook in Word. The first section, School Information, contains examples from my school, Patty Cake Preschool, to show you the type of information that it is important to share with parents. In the second section, Policies, you will see prompts in bold showing where to insert the name of your child care business to make it your own. The third section, Contract, also contains prompts. In a matter of minutes, you can create your own document that covers what parents want to know, what you want parents to know, and what you are both agreeing to, in clear, concise, and parent-friendly terminology. A great resource for conducting interviews and the cornerstone to building successful relationships with parents. Get yours today and be ready for the new year contracts!

Regular Price: $25.00 Discount Price: $20.00

 

Order yours today at: www.patriciadischler.com!

 

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UPCOMING EVENTS

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November 7, 2009

Child Care Choices Early Childhood Conference

Carlton, Minnesota

Keynote: Crazy for Kids!

Workshops: Your Space/Their Space, Teaching the 3Cs

Contact Kimberly Giles  320-251-5081

www.childcarechoices.net

 

November 14, 2009

Early Learning Coalition of Florida’s Gateway Early Childhood Conference

Live Oak, Florida

Keynote: Crazy for Kids!

Workshops: Creating a Professional Image, Teaching the 3Cs

Contact: Carrie Skinner  386-961-0126

www.elc-fg.org

 

November 19, 2009

Northern Illinois Child Care Providers Association Training

Gurnee, Illinois

Workshop: Teaching the 3 Cs

Contact: Alicia Falls  847-445-6213

 

November 20, 2009

Illinois CCR&R Train-the-Trainer Book Release Event

Bloomington, Illinois

3Cs Train-the-trainer session and book signing for Illinois R&R staff

Hosted by Community Child Care Connections

Contact: Tiffany Simmons  1-800-676-2805

www.cccconnect.org

 

November 21, 2009

Half day 3Cs Training and Book Release Event

Springfield, Illinois

3 hour training for providers/teachers following by book signing

Hosted by Community Child Care Connections

Contact: Tiffany Simmons  1-800-676-2805

www.cccconnect.org

 

If you are a member of a group planning a training event and would like to book one of my keynotes or workshops, visit the Lecture page on my website and contact me for availability. Visit www.patriciadischler.com/lecture.php.

 

 

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Patricia Dischler

Author, From Babysitter to Business Owner, Because I Loved You, Tips and Tricks  and The Patty Cake Kids & The Lost Imagination Cap.

www.patriciadischler.com

 

 

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Tuesday, November 3, 2009

KIDBIZ Newsletter

KIDBIZ NEWSLETTER

NOVEMBER 2009

 

A Newsletter for Early Childhood & Child Care Professionals

 

Brought to you by:

Patricia Dischler

Author, Speaker, Child Care Professional

 

www.patriciadischler.com

 

 

In this issue:

 

 

1. Turning the Job You Love Into the Career You’ll Keep

2. Tips & Tricks

3. KIDBIZ Blog

4. In The News

5. This Month’s Sale Item

6. Upcoming Events

 

My new books arrived this morning! I’m telling you, it never gets old – opening the box and seeing my name in print on the cover of a book. It reminds me of the feeling I used to get when I saw a child share something they learned from me with their parent, that “I did that” sense of pride. I miss those moments with the kids, but I know that the moment I got with my books today will lead to many moments where teachers and providers like you call, email, or come up to me at a conference, and share a story on how something from one of my books helped you to find your own moments!

 

Thinking of my journey as a writer, got me thinking about all my books, and the beginning – From Babysitter to Business Owner. I’ve learned a lot since then, as we all do in our careers, so I thought I’d use this month’s article to share what I’ve learned and talk about some things I would change. Remember – you are in control of your path and you have the power to learn from your journey and move forward! I hope that as I share all my journeys with you it helps you get to where you want to be much sooner!

 

Hug a kid for me!

Patricia

 

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Turning the Job You Love Into the Career You’ll Keep

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This was the original sub title for my book, From Babysitter to Business Owner. I chose this title because I felt that what I wanted to share were the secrets to being a successful child care provider and when you are successful you are happy to remain in your career long term. One misconception of my book is that it is only for family child care providers. This is not true at all. Being successful in the child care business means you are intentional in the quality of care you provide to children, your relationships with parents and your career goals. These factors do not change because of the roof over your head! Regardless of whether you are a family child care business owner, a director or owner of a center, or a teacher working at a center or in a school based early childhood program, you have chosen a career path that will require you to stand up for yourself, to have pride in what you do when no one else is noticing, and to continue to grow as a professional. The title, From Babysitter to Business Owner, does not mean the book is how to go from being a babysitter to being a family child care business owner. What the title reflects is my own personal journey, from being a high school babysitter to being the owner of a family child care business. It’s about what I discovered along the way through trial and error and wonderful mentorships, and what I believe others can learn from this to aid them in their own journey through a career in child care.

 

I believe if I could re-write the book, I would change the title to From Babysitters to Business Owners, to reflect that the book is a guide for everyone on this spectrum within the child care field to use to identify how to move forward in their careers, to increase the quality of care they provide, and to establish successful business practices when working with parents. The content of the book is exactly what I want it to be, since there are countless R&R’s across the country who use the book for professionalism trainings, I know that what is inside was done right – there’s just the issue of the outside.

 

If you’ve ever heard me speak, chances are you’ve heard me repeat an adage from my father: “A mistake is only a mistake until you’ve learned from it, then it’s a lesson.” Being that From Babysitter to Business Owner was my first published book, I’ve learned the hard way how important tittles are in marketing to the right audience. I also know that it is never too late to fix mistakes or take lessons learned and do something about them. So, I would like to rewrite the title and introduction to this book! The following is my new introduction. This book is my sale item for November, and anyone purchasing the book through my website will get the book – along with a copy of the new introduction tucked inside! I hope those of you who have purchased many of my other books and products, but avoided this book because of the perceived content, will now give it a try – I know you won’t be disappointed! Child care teachers, directors, owners and family child care providers can all benefit from learning how to make their job easier, more intentional, more professional, and more joyful!

 

FROM BABYSITTERS TO BUSINESS OWNERS

 

Every child is different and so is every child care teacher, provider, and business owner. This book will help you to focus in on what makes you unique as a teacher, what makes the child care business you work at unique, and how you can communicate these qualities through professional business practices when working with parents. The goal of this book is to provide you with the tools to create more for yourself than just a job, but to create a lasting, satisfying and successful career. Thousands of children depend on the hard work of child care providers, from the babysitters they see occasionally, to the child care teachers they love daily, to the child care center and family child care owners that put their all into a business just for that magical opportunity to make a difference in the life of a child. We all play a part in this field of caring for children, and each of us will discover a career path that will either enhance our current position in a way that it makes us never want it to change, or discover in ourselves a talent that moves us in a new direction within the field. Either way, our love for children is solidified with every choice we make. This commitment to children drives us through the difficult tasks inherent in our careers, and can also become the power behind our drive to be the very best at what we do.

 

There is no question that this field needs more quality providers, there are countless families and children who need someone like you. But you have needs too. You need appreciation for your dedication; you need to experience rewards for a job well done, such as respect; and you need to be re-energized and motivated in order to maintain your dedication over the years.

           

There is a way to get your needs met too. In a word, it's: PROFESSIONALISM. Presenting yourself as a professional in every action you take as a child care provider is the key to gaining the success and respect you deserve. This book will take a close look at each part of your business and teach you how to add a professional touch, pulling from your strengths and building on your weaknesses. I personally followed this journey in the field of child care, and I’ll share my journey with you along the way. I struggled too, at first, then slowly began to learn from mistakes, connect with mentors, and make intentional choices that changed who I was as a child care professional. In the end, I had a very successful, and nationally accredited, family child care business. The techniques I used to reach this point are universal in this field.

 

In Chapter 1, the journey begins with: YOU. You are the foundation on which you will build this career and we want it to be strong! We'll discuss finding a new attitude, one that will sustain you through the hard work and set the tone for communication with parents and decisions you will be faced with. You'll learn techniques to improve your professional image – inside and out.

           

Chapters 2, 3 & 4 will take a close look at those parts of your work that directly affect the children: planning a child care space, curriculum and fieldtrips. High quality care is the surest sign of a professional as well as the best marketing tool, these chapters will help you to get organized and make changes that not only will benefit the children but communicate to their parents as well your commitment to their care.

 

Chapter 5 takes you page by page through creating a Parent Handbook. For those of you who are, or are hoping to become, business owners, this will become one of the most valuable tools in running your business. It will include information not only about WHAT you and your daycare have to offer, but answer the important question of "WHY?"  In addition it will include the policies and procedures that will help build a successful business relationship between you and the parents. For this reason, it is also very important for teachers to understand the contents of the Parent Handbook for where they are working. As the teacher, you have the closest relationship with the parents, and your insight can be an invaluable tool to the director or owner in writing a handbook that helps you to establish positive communication with the parents you will be working with.

 

Chapter 6 addresses one of the toughest aspects of this career: communicating with parents. Clear, honest, and open communication is essential in building a working partnership with parents. This chapter will suggest different tools for you to use beginning with that first meeting and continuing over the years as you build a strong relationship.

 

Chapter 7 covers marketing techniques and discusses the important difference between advertising and marketing. There are many ways to get the community talking about how you are someone who provides high quality care, and in this business, word of mouth is liquid gold.

 

Finally, in chapter 8, this book will help you to formulate a plan for your future. There are both short term and long term goals that can help you to stay on track and help build your level of professionalism. This chapter will give you the final tools you need in order to create a lasting and satisfying career.

           

Throughout this book I will share stories with you of my experiences in growing as a professional. I started out in 1988 as an assistant teacher at a child care center, and I made every possible mistake in my first two years! I grew from this and decided I was ready to own my own business. I made just as many mistakes as a business owner that I had as a teacher! It was difficult to wear both hats. But, I was lucky enough to connect with a fantastic support group with some seasoned professionals to help guide me along. I knew immediately that I wanted to be just like them and have a successful business, along with the respect, that they had. It was a long journey. After a few years, I had a flourishing business with a good income, a two-year waiting list, incredible families that respected and appreciated me and countless moments of awe as I spent my days with amazing children who delighted and inspired me.

           

The reason I have written this book for you is to help you avoid some of the mistakes I made and reach your goals sooner than I was able. It took me years to find the right mentors, information and plan for my career. My wish for you is that this book will help you find them now and show you the way to get what you want out of this difficult but amazing business we call family child care.

 

After time, I had learned that it wasn’t the titles of “babysitter, teacher or business owner” that really mattered. What mattered was that I knew I was giving this career my all, that I had achieved a high level of professionalism, and that because of this I was happy and able to continue to touch the lives of children for years to come. I hope this book gives you the same sense of empowerment so together we can let the world know that we have made the journey. From babysitters to business owners, our commitment is changing the future!

 

As mentioned, From Babysitter to Business Owner is this month’s sale item! Get it now at www.patriciadischler.com.

 

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TIPS AND TRICKS

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-Stores that carry wallpaper discard the sample books when new ones come out. Ask them to save them for you; the kids can cut out the pictures on the papers to use for art projects and making cards. Some even have textures and can be used to create texture matching cards.

 

-Every needs to have a great play dough recipe! It saves money and can be available in minutes whenever you need it. Here’s my favorite:

 

HOMEMADE PLAYDOUGH

1 cup flour

½ cup salt

1 cup water with food coloring mixed in (paste food coloring makes brightest play dough)

2 tsp cream of tartar

1 tablespoon oil

Mix all ingredients in saucepan until smooth than cook over med-high heat stirring constantly until a ball is formed. Dump play dough out, knead a few times. (Kids love to play with it while it’s still warm!) Immediately fill the pan with water to soak, then it will be easy to wipe clean later.

 

-Instead of putting paint cups that tend to tip over when a paint brush is put inside it, put globs of paint on a paper plate. Each child can have their own “paint palate” to use.

 

-For the wigglers at group time, have them sit on one of the welcome mats that are made to look like fake grass. The sensory input from the prickly plastic grass feeds their need and helps to calm them down.

 

-Another calming technique for group time is to have all the children lie on their stomachs and gently roll a large plastic play ball over their backs. Roll it gently, but firmly, and it will calm everyone down quickly.

 

-For your picky eaters, try to give them mealtimes where instead of coaxing them throughout the meal, they can be successful. Offer a “Teeny Tiny Meal” as a treat, putting just a teaspoon or less portion of each meal component on their plate. Not just of the food you think they won’t eat – but the entire meal! Most children will be caught up in the fun of the tiny meal and finish it quickly, giving you a chance to cheer them on and build their self esteem when they are finally able to not only “finish” their meal, but ask for more! (Which you will be more than happy to provide in tiny portions again, and again!)

 

-For those of you not blessed with the hills of Wisconsin, next time it snows shovel the snow from your driveway into one pile to create your own little hill. The kids love to slide on these small “hills” since they can climb up them quickly, and even slide down in their snowsuit for fun!

 

This month’s Tips are taken directly from my booklet, “101Tips and Tricks” available at: www.patriciadischler.com.

 

 

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KIDBIZ BLOG

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This month, I’m posing a question on my blog: “Quality Rating Systems: Do you feel that the quality rating system for your state guides parents into choosing higher quality care than they would have before, or do you hear from parents that it is frustrating because their area does not have providers with the higher ratings, or providers who do are always full?”

 

Think about this from the parents point of view, what are you hearing? Do parents even care about the rating? How often are you asked about yours? If it’s not a high rating, how do parents react? Do you feel it’s harder to fill openings with a lower rating or has it had no effect on this?

 

NAFCC is working with the Build Foundation to compile information across the country on QRIS that work, and that don’t. Let me know what you think!

 

Join in the conversation and visit http://kidbiz.blogspot.com today!

 

The KIDBIZ Blog is a place where I can share all the great articles and information I have access to and think you should have access to as well! If you’ve found a great article or website that you think should be shared with others in our field, send it to me so I can post it and pass it on!

 

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IN THE NEWS

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Teaching the 3 Cs Hits the Book Shelves!

The books have arrived today – and they are beautiful! I know you are all going to love this resource, it is PACKED with activity ideas, all indexed by state standards for easy use. If you pre-ordered, watch the mail it will be there very soon! If you don’t have yours ordered yet – go to www.patriciadischler.com NOW and get it done!

 

NAFCC Announces the 2010 Conference is in Nashville, Tennessee!

The conference theme is “Creating Harmony: Tuning into children through partnerships and professionalism.” Conference will be at the beautiful Rennasaince Hotel right in the heart of Nashville. Preconference days are filled with in-depth, high level training for providers, trainers, and support staff. Conference days include dozens of workshops by quality presenters and lots of entertainment and networking! Once again, NAFCC will offer the popular payment plan option so you can fit this amazing opportunity for professional development into your schedule. Visit www.nafcc.org for more information! And, I’ll see you there!

 

Provider Appreciation Day 2010

NACCRRA and NAFCC join together to help organizations and individuals celebrate Provider Appreciation Day! Visit the website for loads of ideas and products to help you make the most of this event: www.ProviderAppreciation.org.

 

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THIS MONTH’S SALE ITEMS

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November Sale Item: From Babysitter to Business Owner – 15% off!

The complete guide to professionalism for your child care business! Chapters cover every aspect, including: professional image, environment, curriculum, fieldtrips, communication with parents, creating a parent handbook, marketing and setting goals. My first book and considered the “must-have” manual by many Resource and Referral agencies across the country. Get it now and be ready to get your business on track for a successful new year in 2010!

Regular Price $17.95 Discount Price: $15.26

 

December Sale Item: The Patty Cake Preschool Parent Handbook CD – 20% off!

Get ready to start your New Year off on a fresh new foot with the parents in your program! The Parent Handbook CD is a rewritable CD with a 50 page handbook in Word. The first section, School Information, contains examples from my school, Patty Cake Preschool, to show you the type of information that it is important to share with parents. In the second section, Policies, you will see prompts in bold showing where to insert the name of your child care business to make it your own. The third section, Contract, also contains prompts. In a matter of minutes, you can create your own document that covers what parents want to know, what you want parents to know, and what you are both agreeing to, in clear, concise, and parent-friendly terminology. A great resource for conducting interviews and the cornerstone to building successful relationships with parents. Get yours today and be ready for the new year contracts!

Regular Price: $25.00 Discount Price: $20.00

 

Order yours today at: www.patriciadischler.com!

 

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UPCOMING EVENTS

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November 7, 2009

Child Care Choices Early Childhood Conference

Carlton, Minnesota

Keynote: Crazy for Kids!

Workshops: Your Space/Their Space, Teaching the 3Cs

Contact Kimberly Giles  320-251-5081

www.childcarechoices.net

 

November 14, 2009

Early Learning Coalition of Florida’s Gateway Early Childhood Conference

Live Oak, Florida

Keynote: Crazy for Kids!

Workshops: Creating a Professional Image, Teaching the 3Cs

Contact: Carrie Skinner  386-961-0126

www.elc-fg.org

 

November 19, 2009

Northern Illinois Child Care Providers Association Training

Gurnee, Illinois

Workshop: Teaching the 3 Cs

Contact: Alicia Falls  847-445-6213

 

November 20, 2009

Illinois CCR&R Train-the-Trainer Book Release Event

Bloomington, Illinois

3Cs Train-the-trainer session and book signing for Illinois R&R staff

Hosted by Community Child Care Connections

Contact: Tiffany Simmons  1-800-676-2805

www.cccconnect.org

 

November 21, 2009

Half day 3Cs Training and Book Release Event

Springfield, Illinois

3 hour training for providers/teachers following by book signing

Hosted by Community Child Care Connections

Contact: Tiffany Simmons  1-800-676-2805

www.cccconnect.org

 

 

 

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Thursday, October 15, 2009

KIDSAKE Newsletter

KIDSAKE NEWSLETTER

OCTOBER 2009

 

A Newsletter For Birthmothers, Adoptive Parent, Adoptees

& Adoption Professionals

 

Brought to you by:

Patricia Dischler

Author, Speaker, Child Care Professional, Birthmother

 

www.patriciadischler.com

 

 

In this issue:

 

1. Facing Myths in Adoption

2. Parent Corner

3. In The News

4. This Month’s Sale Item

5. Upcoming Events

 

September was a vacation month for me, and in addition to spending time with lots of my immediate family, I also spent a whole day with my son, Joe. It was so wonderful to spend such a big amount of time together and just talk. Living 10 hours away from each other makes these visits occur less often than I would like, plus Joe is very busy with his restaurant. But that day was a blessing and it really struck me how far we’ve come. 24 years ago I had so many fears and faced so many myths in adoption, it was hard some days to imagine having a beautiful day together with Joe like we just had. So, this month’s article goes back to that time and what I was facing, some of these myths are still held by many today, and perhaps by sharing my story with you, you can do your part to go out in this world and end these myths too.

 

Patricia

 

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On my first visit to Catholic Charities, back in 1985, to discuss my options for an unplanned pregnancy, I was handed a copy of Dear Birthmother: Thank You For Our Baby by Kathleen Silber and Phyllis Speedlin (Corona Pub. Co., 1983). The book  identified four myths of adoption:

1. “The birthmother obviously doesn’t care about her child or she wouldn’t have

given him away.”

2. “Secrecy in every phase of the adoption process is necessary to protect all parties.”

3. “Both the birthmother and birthfather will forget about their unwanted child.”

4. “If the adoptee really loved his adoptive family, he would not have to search for his birthparents.”

These were the positions I had to face when discussing my pregnancy with family, friends, and even health care professionals. People were very convinced that they were all true. As Silber and Speelin say, “Regrettably, these fictions are persuasive, easily understood, and easily passed along.” For some time it seemed the only people who knew that they were not true were the members of the adoption triangle: birthparents, adoptive parents and child.

            As convincing as these arguments were, I knew right away that the first one was false. I loved my baby so much, just the thought of letting him go made me shake. I also realized that the reason I would even consider letting him go was BECAUSE I loved him so much. I did encounter friends that when I mentioned considering adoption that responded: “I could never give away my baby, I would love it too much.” I always found this a contradiction since I knew it would take more love to let him go than to keep him. Real love is unselfish. Keeping a baby because the alternative would hurt ME, was not love.

            Time has helped to dispel this myth, but not completely. For the most part, when I tell someone new my story they respond with respect for the courage and love it took to make that decision. People in my life seem to understand, people in Joe’s life – those who know him – can’t imagine someone giving him away. It seems harder for them to see it as an act of love. They feel that Joe should be angry with me for not caring and giving him up. Thankfully, Joe knows how much I love him and he brushes aside the negative comments. I wish that these people would realize that the reason Joe is the person he has become is BECAUSE I loved him enough to give him a better life than I could have.

            The second myth, secrecy, again will exist depending on whom you are talking to. The professional community has finally seen the harm in the secrecy shrouding the adoptions from decades earlier. Most birthmothers and families considering adoption today look for open communication and understand the negative effects of secrecy. But the generations before us were so convinced that this myth was true that many hold onto it today. There are people in my family who still believe I should not share my story with anyone, that “letting it out” will do more harm than good. I say with complete certainty that holding it in for 12 years hurt a lot more than talking about it ever could.

            The third myth, that birthparents will “forget,” seems to be one of the most difficult myths to dispel. While research confirms that birthparents do NOT forget, that in fact, birthmothers suffering can compound as time passes, family and friends of birthmothers still can hold the belief that with time, they will forget. Furthermore, many feel that the birthmother SHOULD forget. I faced this with many members of my family on different levels, and still do today. While proud of the choice I made, they feel that I should "put it behind me” and “go on with my life”, they think I should not be talking about it, and certainly not be communicating with Joe or his family. They feel it’s all better left unsaid and forgotten. This is an absolutely impossible task to do. It would be easier to forget that I have legs. Joe is a part of who I am. I could never forget him and I yearn to know him better.

            I have a hard time understanding why people think it’s wrong for us to have a relationship if Joe, his parents and I all agree that it’s beneficial. Again, society wants to make a decision instead of letting those involved make it for themselves. True, I am not his mother. Joe does not have any disillusions about me becoming his mother again; he just wants to get to know me. He wants to know why he’s so musical, why his eyes are so dark, why he prefers riding a motorcycle. I know why – because of me. I may not be his mother, but I am his family, I am his past, and he is my future. When I am gone he will be a piece of me left on this earth; I am proud and honored to get to see what effect on this world he has.

            The fourth myth, that adoptee’s wouldn’t search if they loved their adoptive families has again been proven to be false by research. It is confusing in the current literature whether or not this is still held to be true by general society. I do know however, that in talking with Joe’s parents that they never questioned his love for them when he requested a reunion with me.

            For me, reading “Dear Birthmother” addressed all my fears concerning these myths as well as answered the question most important in my mind: will he know I love him? The pages and pages of letters written by birthmothers, adoptive parents and adopted children all had one underlining theme: love. The love and compassion that adoptive parents had for the birthmothers touched my heart. Hearing from adoptees that acknowledged the strength and love their birthmothers must have had in order to give them up quieted all my fears. While society was still attacking me with their conviction that all the myths were true, I knew after reading this book that they most definitely were not.

            Now, 20 years later and many people are still holding onto these myths. The authors of “Birthmother” were certainly ahead of their time, but you would think that by now “society” would have caught up. The professional community has. Research has disproved these myths time and time again. But old habits die hard and changing the views of people who had no direct connection to adoption and grew up in an age when it was shrouded in shame and secrecy will prove to be a very difficult task. This is a challenge worth undertaking. It is why I wrote my book. Birthmothers, adoptees and adoptive parents need to get their stories out into the public eye so they can truly see and understand what it is like to go through this process, so “society” grows in its understanding and it’s ability to support young mothers.

 

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PARENT CORNER: Teaching your child the 3 C’s: Creativity, Curiosity & Courtesy

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If you are getting frustrated with the pressure on your young child to learn their “3 Rs” earlier and earlier, and you recognize that before they can do this there are other important skills to learn, like learning can be fun, just HOW to learn, how to problem solve, explore, use their imaginations and be a good friend – then check out my new book! The following are just a few of the dozens of activities in this book for parents and teachers to help guide them towards building a foundation for success for their child. The book is out November 1st, but you can pre-order it at a discount today! Visit the website to get yours now – www.patriciadischler.com.

 

CREATIVITY ACTIVITIES:

Be a Model of Imperfection

Model for your child how items can have uses alternate from what they were originally intended for. Such as using a can to roll your cookie dough, putting pennies in a sock for a paperweight, using a boot as a bookend.

 

Scavenger Hunt

Send your child on a hunt for five things in your house that can be used to do the same thing. Examples are a vase and a horn can both hold a flower. You can use a pen and a berry to write on paper. A chair and a stack of books can be used to sit on. You can provide the theme (such as things you can write with) to help them get started, but allow some time for them to discover their own matches.

 

Favorite Story Rewrite

Read a favorite story with your child. Then, close the book and have the child retell the story, but add their own twists to the story. For example, maybe the prince should ride a cow instead of a horse! Or change who the “winner” is in a storyline. Add dinosaurs or a rainfall of flower petals. Encourage creativity in the activity through modeling – tell your own version as well!

 

 

CURIOSITY ACTIVITIES:

Where is Tommy?

Create an index card, or fun shape, with each letter of a child’s name on a separate card. Hide the letters around the room while the child is not there. When they arrive say that their name is hidden in the room and they must now go find it, like playing hide and seek! When the letters are all found, have them line up the cards on a table in the correct order to spell their name.

 

The Keys to Curiosity

Provide your child with a basket full of an assortment of keys. (Your local hardware store should be able to provide them to you at no cost, they save keys that were cut wrong.) Use the keys as a conversation starter. Allow the child to pick keys from the basket to observe. Ask them “what do you think that key opens?” Engage in conversation about all of the possibilities. Children may even wish to try the keys in different locks around your home, and by all means, support this curiosity!

 

Stories in Motion

The next time you read a story to your child, whenever there is an action word – act that word out! If it says “skip” – skip. If you read “hop” – hop. If you read “run” – run! Do this throughout the book when reading a new story. Later in the day ask if they can tell you the story you had read to them. You’ll be surprised at how much easier it is for them to remember it when you do this – the action will give them a different sensory input for remembering the story, making it easier to remember. To take it a step further – ask your child to do the actions with you as you read for even better memory retention.

 

 

COURTESY ACTIVITIES:

What I Like About You!

At a mealtime, encourage children and adults to go around the table and turn to either their left or right, name the person sitting there and finish this sentence: “What I like about ________ is…” It’s a nice way to gather as a family at meal time to acknowledge something positive between family members. It helps build self esteem of those who are talked about and the person sharing the positive comments experiences how sharing good things and compliments with others can be a self rewarding experience. It reminds us that when we are down, and not feeling good about ourselves or our day, that we can always depend on our family to see the good in us and lift us back up again!

 

Word Hug

Give your child three words you want them to listen for in a story, along with three actions to go with the words such as hug, shake hands with a neighbor and clap. Read a story and as you read each word, see how often the child remembers what the action for that word is! They may get mixed up, and you can help a little, but try to let them remember what the directions were. As you read they will get it right more and more often. Cheer along with them for their successes!

 

Bucket Brigade

Next time you need to fill the kiddie pool, instead of putting a hose in it, start a bucket brigade! Line your family up between the faucet and the pool, giving each a small bucket. Fill the first bucket then that person pours the water into the bucket of the next person in line. They continue to pass the water down and dump into the pool until it is full.

 

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IN THE NEWS

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New, Exciting Seminar for Professionals who Work with Adolescent Moms

Information on brain development and how it affects a teens ability to parent by brain development experts Deborah McNeilis and mary Adele Revoy. Wednesday, November 11, 2009, Bishop O’Connor Retreat and Conference Center (702 South High Point Road), Madison, Wisconsin. Cost $80, time 8:15 a.m. – 3:30 p.m. For more information visit: http://www.whoisrevoy.com/ReachTeach.html.

 

Great resource for adoptive parents working on their portfolio: Check out www.ourchosenchild.com, it’s a website to help you create your family scrapbook, very beautiful! Created by Joanna Ivey, it is a great resource for putting all your memories together in a beautiful keepsake.

 

If your organization is holding a training event, please let me know and I’ll add it to the newsletter for you!

 

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October Sale Item: Pre-order Discount on my new book Teaching the 3 Cs: Creativity, Curiosity & Courtesy – 15% Off!

To be released in November, you can be one of the first to get a copy by pre-ordering now before the release date! This book is a reflection of the types of activities I did at Patty Cake Preschool for over 17 years, the title was my slogan for my school. It is based not only on my personal beliefs and experience, but research from many in the early childhood field including the authors of The Creative Curriculum. Before you can teach the 3 Rs, you need to teach them the 3 Cs! Teach children to have a joy of learning, to use their imaginations, to explore, to wonder, to work together and be kind. These are the children that take will go far because they are not only able to acquire new information – but they will know what to DO with it as well! The book provides research and background on how to teach the 3Cs, as well as dozens of activities for each and a section on how to integrate each C into state standards. All activities in the book are indexed by developmental learning area for quick reference. Filled with fun, easy and inspiring new activities for your program! Order yours now and be the first to get started!

Regular Price: $25.95 Pre-order Discount Price: $22.06

 

November Sale Item: From Babysitter to Business Owner – 15% off!

The complete guide to professionalism for your child care business! Chapters cover every aspect, including: professional image, environment, curriculum, fieldtrips, communication with parents, creating a parent handbook, marketing and setting goals. My first book and considered the “must-have” manual by many Resource and Referral agencies across the country. Get it now and be ready to get your business on track for a successful new year in 2010! (NOTE: Makes a great gift for your child’s child care provider!)

Regular Price $17.95 Discount Price: $15.26

 

Order yours today at: www.patriciadischler.com!

 

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UPCOMING EVENTS

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October 3, 2009

Catholic Charities Friends of Adoption Conference

Eau Claire, Wisconsin

Keynote: Strangers Who Trust for the Sake of a Child: What parents and counselors in both closed and open adoptions can learn from a successful open adoption.

Parenting Workshop: Parenting the Adopted Child: Successful parenting techniques for behavioral problems

Contact: Magen Duffy, 608-782-0710

www.cclse.org

 

October 10, 2009

ECCOA training: Being the Best You Can Be!

Omaha, Nebraska

Full day training event, topics covered:

Turning the Job You Love into the Career You’ll Keep!

Building Partnerships with Parents

Teaching the 3 Cs

Tips & Tricks

Contact ECCOA at 402-597-4991

www.esu3.org

 

October 20, 2009

Child Development Center of St. Joseph staff training

Milwaukee, Wisconsin

Workshop: Parents Can’t Hear Me!

Contact: Agnela Lampkin 414-645-5337

www.cdcsj.org

 

October 24, 2009

New Opportunities Early Childhood Conference

Carroll, Iowa

Keynote: Crazy for Kids!

Workshops: Tips & Tricks, Teaching the 3 Cs

Contact: Katie Riesberg 712-792-9266

www.newopp.org

 

November 7, 2009

Child Care Choices Early Childhood Conference

Carlton, Minnesota

Keynote: Crazy for Kids!

Workshops: Your Space/Their Space, Teaching the 3Cs

Contact Kimberly Giles  320-251-5081

www.childcarechoices.net

 

November 14, 2009

Early Learning Coalition of Florida’s Gateway Early Childhood Conference

Live Oak, Florida

Keynote: Crazy for Kids!

Workshops: Creating a Professional Image, Teaching the 3Cs

Contact: Carrie Skinner  386-961-0126

www.elc-fg.org

 

November 19, 2009

Northern Illinois Child Care Providers Association Training

Gurnee, Illinois

Workshop: Teaching the 3 Cs

Contact: Alicia Falls  847-445-6213

 

November 20, 2009

Illinois CCR&R Train-the-Trainer Book Release Event

Bloomington, Illinois

3Cs Train-the-trainer session and book signing for Illinois R&R staff

Hosted by Community Child Care Connections

Contact: Tiffany Simmons  1-800-676-2805

www.cccconnect.org

 

November 21, 2009

Half day 3Cs Training and Book Release Event

Springfield, Illinois

3 hour training for providers/teachers following by book signing

Hosted by Community Child Care Connections

Contact: Tiffany Simmons  1-800-676-2805

www.cccconnect.org

 

If you are a member of a group planning a training event and would like to book one of my keynotes or workshops, visit the Lecture page on my website and contact me for availability. Visit www.patriciadischler.com/lecture.php.

 

 

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Monday, October 5, 2009

KIDBIZ Newsletter

KIDBIZ NEWSLETTER

OCTOBER 2009

 

A Newsletter for Early Childhood & Child Care Professionals

 

Brought to you by:

Patricia Dischler

Author, Speaker, Child Care Professional

 

www.patriciadischler.com

 

 

In this issue:

 

 

1. Teaching the 3C’s

2. Tips & Tricks

3. KIDBIZ Blog

4. In The News

5. This Month’s Sale Item

6. Upcoming Events

 

Taking time off is a wonderful thing, September was time for me to put family first and I enjoyed every minute of it! Had a great trip to Florida to see my mom and sister, and an aunt, uncle and some cousins too. Anyone ever heard of The Villages? It’s a grown up version of my daycare! They play outside a lot, dance everyday, make lots of great friendships, and love crafts and tea parties. I can’t wait to be old enough to move there! My mom acts 20 years younger since moving there and it was a blast to get to see her new life and friends.

 

The down side to taking time away from work – is that it doesn’t just go on hold, it piles up! So now I’m swamped trying to play catch-up. Obviously I missed the September newsletter, but my plan was to get an early start on October and start to try and get the newsletter out at the beginning of each month, rather than the end! So far, I’m doing okay with that plan. My new book is out next month – Teaching the 3Cs – and you can get it now at a discount on my website! (And great news from the publisher, they decided to lower the price once it went to print and it was a few pages less than they had anticipated.) I am so excited about this book, I just know it’ll be your favorite. So this month’s article is an adaptation from the book, a quick “bite” of the beginning of each chapter. Then in the Tips section I’ve listed a few of the activities in the book (there are dozens!)

 

I’ll be seeing lots of you in the next few months, I’m traveling a lot to do book release events and speaking based on the book – I can’t wait to come and share it with you!

 

Hug a kid for me!

Patricia

 

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(The following is an adaptation from the book, available November 1, 2009)

 

In the world of early childhood there has been an increase in the pressure to teach the traditional 3 Rs: Reading, 'Riting, and 'Rithmatic. What was once the curriculum for first grade has become the standard for kindergarten classrooms, and what was once a kindergarten lesson is expected at the preschool level. Parents feel they should expect more, research shows kids are capable of more, and so standards get tighter and the pressure is on for early childhood teachers to deliver. The unfortunate result of this has been programs that focus on getting the academic results and that leave the basics for all learning behind. It is no surprise then that many programs are struggling, and that children in higher grades are being found to have little or no problem solving techniques and additional problems with social interactions. The missing link? Teaching the 3 Cs. Instilling in children a love for learning and a process for making decisions and solving problems while working with others begins with encouraging in them a sense of creativity, curiosity and courtesy.

The days for simple play and exploration in childhood seems to be gone. But for the new programs of advanced learning to be effective in any way children must be allowed the opportunity to build a basis for all learning, to get excited about what the possibilities are and what their part in it will be.

Teaching creativity to children is not only fun for the children and teachers, it opens doors to other learning. By letting children explore new possibilities with materials, activities and discussions, they can become masters of their own learning. Children have a natural curiosity but all too often it is quieted by a pre-disposed lesson plan or a busy personal schedule. Teachers that follow a child's natural curiosity and provide them the avenues to obtain the information they crave will find that more learning takes place in those moments than in a week's worth of planned activities. As children interact with each other and adults, modeling and requiring a standard of courtesy creates a sense of respect among all. Children who show respect and feel it will have a strong self-esteem and build successful relationships with peers and adults.

 

CREATIVITY

Sparking creativity in children opens the door to learning in every developmental area. When children think creatively they look beyond what is in front of them to see what could be. They explore from many different angles and engage all of their senses. This creative exploration can lead to successful problem solving, a broader understanding of topics taught, and a sense of appreciation for the world they live in.

            To “teach” creativity is to embed a child’s day with options. To provide the physical environment to support creative action as well as provide the psychological environment to support the quest for creative action. For teachers, this means not only providing appropriate materials, but creating an atmosphere that encourages the exploration of new ideas.

            Without this basis of thinking creatively children are prone to merely acquire information – rather than have the skill to do something with this information. When children are supported in their creativity they are able to actively engage in the learning process. For example, it is more than learning there are numbers, but about learning what those numbers are capable of doing. How they interact, what they can represent, how they can be used to organize or represent objects and information.

The ability to find new and exciting answers is often described as, “thinking outside of the box.” It is used to describe creative people or to encourage a group of adults to think creatively. But what exactly does it take to think outside of the box? There are several factors that affect creative thinking. They are:

  • Functional Freedom: Seeing items as having multiple uses.
  • Stimulus Freedom: Not being confined by rules.
  • Delay of Gratification: Knowing that time can change an outcome.
  • Balanced Brain: Using the right brain to discover possibilities, and the left brain to sort through these to find a solution.

Teachers can support creative thinkers by providing activities that support these four factors. Together, they give children the tools they need to explore their world with a creative eye and come to their own conclusions regarding their place in the world and their abilities to change it.

 

 

CURIOSITY

 

Creativity and curiosity are intrinsically linked. One leads to the other, and vice versa. They are both important elements of problem solving. We begin by trying something new (creativity) then testing it to see what happens (curiosity). But also, the opposite can occur, where we begin by looking to discover all the possibilities (curiosity) then using this information in a new way (creativity) to solve our problem. It is this give and take between the two that can lead to many exciting and new revelations and possibilities. They are the keys for many an inventor, engineer, or philosopher in making new discoveries, inventions and solutions. Children who are given the freedom to stretch these abilities and explore their capabilities within them to the fullest will find their play to have a richer, deeper meaning and a higher sense of accomplishment. Ginger Carlson, author of Child of Wonder ties together curiosity and learning in this way: “Exploration is the foundation for developing a creative thinker.” (Carlson, 2008)

Given the importance of curiosity to the evolution of our society through new inventions and ideas, one would think it would hold a higher level of importance in our educational system. Unfortunately, we have moved to such results-oriented educational experiences that instead of being provided an open field of exploration, our children are being lead down specific paths (both figuratively and literally!)

All too often, curriculums are filled with experiences for children that lead to specific results, rather than an open end. In an attempt to meet state early learning standards, activities are designed to lead children step by step through specific learning goals. Even the science experiments are meant to lead children to a predisposed conclusion, leaving curiosity far behind.

Children are learning to follow directions, to make the connections that have been laid out for them, but to think no further than that. An agenda has been set and, for many teachers, time is of the essence in teaching specific results to children. In my own daughter’s middle school, the parent’s were told that the previously taught English class was being completely changed in order to teach only what would be offered on the state tests they were expected to complete at the end of the year. The result was that free exploration of many topics was completely eliminated from the curriculum.

As the grade schools deal with the problem of creating curriculum to produce specific test results it becomes increasingly necessary for early childhood educators to avoid these pitfalls and work to establish a solid base of curiosity in children that can sustain their learning for years to come! In early childhood we feel these pressures to move into results based learning. But lucky for us, hidden deep under “Cognitive Development” in many of our state standards lay the opportunities to foster curiosity in children. Standards such as “Notices new things and people.” “Investigates items closely.” Or, “Asks questions and provides answers,” all give us that window of opportunity to include curiosity activities into our program. For those states that have not included such openings, it is still possible to bring curiosity back into our classrooms and back into childhood!

We can support our children’s natural ability to be curious, and to link this curiosity into creativity and problem solving, by supporting the following factors:

·        EXPLORE THE POSSIBILITIES: Wonder, experiment, tell stories.

·        EXPLORE THE WORLD: Fieldtrips and dress up.

·        ASK QUESTIONS: Who, what, why, when, where and how.

When we bring these factors into our classrooms and homes, we give our children the opportunities to cultivate their natural sense of curiosity, to build on their creativity and to become a problem solver.

 

COURTESY

Courtesy is a dying attribute in today’s society. Evidence of this it the fact that there are very few books that even discuss it. With the exception of the books by Emily Post, and her daughter Peggy, I found very few resources on this topic. I also found it interesting that there was a time many years ago that these books were found plentiful, yet over time the number diminished to the point of almost non-existence. I believe we’ve seen a direct correlation to this in our society, and specifically in our approach to teaching and caring for young children.

Sheryl Eberly, author of 365 Manners Kids Should Know, shares her concerns, “For at least a generation, manners training in many homes seems to have been neglected.” (Eberly, 2001)

But this cost is too high. Families are being torn apart by distance in our new world, and without some of the fundamental values encased in courtesy they begin to see no reason to put effort into maintaining these relationships and often let them die. Businesses are floundering with no sense among employees of responsibility as a group or from employers of loyalty to those who have served them for years.

Bringing a sense of responsibility and dependability between people begins with courtesy. Teaching our children to be kind and helpful to each other has a tremendous impact on society, yet it is missing in most curriculums in our nation.

Teaching courtesy has become such a novelty that you can even find one week lesson plans on “Good Manners” or “Friendship.” The risk in creating these units is that teachers see the topic as one to only give their attention to for a short period of time. Courtesy should be an integrated part of our everyday lives, in the way we teach, in the way we model relationships to each other, and in what we expect from children. Yet it has slipped away.

Our role as models of courtesy and kindness is more important than ever. The children can’t wait until grade school to experience character education, it needs to begin as early as possible.

Teaching courtesy to children is a process of modeling and encouraging four elements that support this behavior:

  • Dependability: Children can depend on you and can be dependable to others.
  • Kindness: Being nice never should go out of style.
  • Honesty: Create an environment where is okay to tell the truth, and they will.
  • Respect: Build an understanding of others, and respect will grow.        

Teachers can help children to practice these values and provide a model for children to learn from.

I ask every reader to spend a few moments thinking back to their own childhood. Do you remember raiding your Dad’s tools and scrap lumber to build a fort? Do you remember taking long hikes in the woods just hoping for an adventure? Do you remember just what family meant? It’s time to get back to teaching these basics before they disappear altogether, but in a better way.

Teaching the 3Cs empowers teachers to bring back the basics and rebuild our children’s future for the better. To give them a strong base to stand on: a desire to learn because learning is fun again, the ability to problem solve through creativity and curiosity, and a caring attitude as they reach for the sky.

 

 

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TIPS AND TRICKS

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Scavenger Hunt

Send your child on a hunt for five things in your house/school that can be used to do the same thing. Examples are a vase and a horn can both hold a flower. You can use a pen and a berry to write on paper. A chair and a stack of books can be used to sit on. You can provide the theme (such as things you can write with) to help them get started, but allow some time for them to discover their own matches. Activity encourages a creative look at items and their functions.

 

Houston! We Have a Problem!

Set up a dramatic play situation for the children (any theme will work), and allow them a day to explore it. On the second day, remove an item that you had observed as being central to their play the day before. Pose the question for the children, “We have a problem! The ______ is no longer here, what could we use instead?” Be open to their suggestions and supportive by providing the materials they feel are necessary to recreate the missing item. Or, you could offer them a “tool box” that contains an assortment of odd items they can choose from to create what they need. Allow their sense of creativity to guide them through the trial/error of the possibilities in order to find their own solution. Encourage their sense of flexibility in situations that pose change from the expected! Activity supports Creativity through functional freedom as children problem-solve for a replacement item.

 

Favorite Story Rewrite

Read a favorite story with your child. Then, close the book and have the child retell the story, but add their own twists to the story. For example, maybe the prince should ride a cow instead of a horse! Or change who the “winner” is in a storyline. Add dinosaurs or a rainfall of flower petals. Encourage creativity in the activity through modeling – tell your own version as well! Activity supports stimulus freedom as children see stories as something they can change.

 

Sing! Sing! Sing!

Have a singing day! Instead of talking with children in your regular tone of voice – sing! Sing Good Morning, sing their storybook, sing instructions, and sing everything you would have said normally throughout the day! By modeling this behavior you are teaching the children stimulus freedom and encouraging them to try new behaviors in expected settings. Watch and see which children join in – or perhaps, which choose a different mode of “talking” for the day, such as whispering, yelling, or monotone. Activity supports stimulus freedom as children experience, through your modeling, a new approach to each day.

 

Abstract Art Names

Give the children a sheet of white paper and a colored marker for each of the letters in their name. Have them put on a blindfold and draw the first letter of their name on the paper, large to fill the paper. Continue with the other letters of their name, using a different color for each and keeping the blindfold on. When they are done, they should have a wonderful abstract piece of art that represents the letters of their name in a fun and creative way! Activity supports delayed gratification as children create without seeing immediate results.

Playing Picasso

Present a simple drawing or photo to the child, place it on a bed tray with sides to hold it up over table so there is room to put a piece of paper under the try on the table that the child can reach under to draw on – but not see. Or place it on the table and put a chair under the table to place the paper on and have the child stand at the table side. You want them to be able to see the drawing/photo, but not their paper. Ask them to copy the drawing/photo. Encourage them to look closely at the outline, to match the movement with the movement of their pen. Tell them to use their eyes as their pen and just let their pen follow. Go slowly. The drawing may look completely off balance – or it may be a perfect match! It is a great exercise for getting the mind and body to work together. Activity supports balanced brain activity as memory and motion work together.

 

How Many Ways Can We Get To The Moon?

Engage children in a discussion of problem solving the many ways they could get to the moon. Let them know that they can use anything they wish, including new things that they invent or items we already have. Give a couple examples to get them going: “We could stack up all the lawn chairs of every person in our state and climb to the moon. Or, we could build the biggest ball ever and sit on top of it as our friends fill it with air and when it is completely filled it will have lifted us all the way to the moon!” After coming up with many possibilities, then move the discussion into choosing the one that would most likely work in reality. Activity takes the children from right brain thinking – considering all possibilities, to left brain thinking – analysis and accuracy.

 

Cookie Madness

Make a batch of chocolate chip cookie dough, but don’t put in the chocolate chips. Talk with the children about how this famous recipe was created because someone thought of combining two things they liked – cookies and chocolate. Ask the children to think of all the foods they like, encourage the children to name any food they like such as mashed potatoes, ham, carrots, peas, cucumbers, milk, cheese, etc! Make a list. Gather the items. Spoon out 1 rounded teaspoon of the dough on a cookie sheet then have each child add one of their favorite food items to the dough (if large, cut in small bits), sprinkle bits of food over top of dough and press in. Bake cookies at 350 degrees for 12 minutes. Have a tasting party to see if you’ve discovered they new next famous cookie! Activity supports balanced brain function as children use the sense of taste to explore possibilities.

 

For more activities, pre-order your copy of Teaching the 3Cs at a 15% discount at www.patriciadischler.com

 

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KIDBIZ BLOG

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Great article – “Pressure-cooker Kindergarten: A new emphasis on testing and test preparation – brought on by politicians, not early education experts – is hurting the youngest students. By Patti Hartigan from the Boston Globe. Highlights the many reasons why I feel so strongly about the importance of the 3Cs! Visit the blog to read the full article and weigh in with your thoughts as well!

 

Also, there’s been some comments added to the discussion regarding vehicle safety alarms, add your thoughts to the discussion too!

 

Join in the conversation and visit http://kidbiz.blogspot.com today!

 

The KIDBIZ Blog is a place where I can share all the great articles and information I have access to and think you should have access to as well! If you’ve found a great article or website that you think should be shared with others in our field, send it to me so I can post it and pass it on!

 

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IN THE NEWS

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Annie E. Casey Foundation KIDS COUNT Data Book

Now available on their website, this Data Book provides a national and state-by-state look at the status of children in the United States. There is also a companion essay that outlines a series of action steps to improve the nation’s use of data in creating policies that improve outcomes for children and families. To view these documents visit:

http://datacenter.kidscount.org.

 

Sign up to receive FREE issue of Modern Handmade Child

A new magazine put together with the help of WFCCA Vice President, Kim Gachnang. Lots of great learning games and articles for providers and teachers. You can sign up on the website to receive free quarterly issues. Visit http://modernhandmadechild.com/index.html.

Also visit Kim’s website for her own learning games, classroom helpers, unique promotional clothespins and more at http://tootsiebear.etsy.com.

 

Provider Appreciation Day 2010

NACCRRA and NAFCC join together to help organizations and individuals celebrate Provider Appreciation Day! Visit the website for loads of ideas and products to help you make the most of this event: www.ProviderAppreciation.org.

 

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THIS MONTH’S SALE ITEMS

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October Sale Item: Pre-order Discount on my new book Teaching the 3 Cs: Creativity, Curiosity & Courtesy – 15% Off!

To be released in November, you can be one of the first to get a copy by pre-ordering now before the release date! This book is a reflection of the types of activities I did at Patty Cake Preschool for over 17 years, the title was my slogan for my school. It is based not only on my personal beliefs and experience, but research from many in the early childhood field including the authors of The Creative Curriculum. Before you can teach the 3 Rs, you need to teach them the 3 Cs! Teach children to have a joy of learning, to use their imaginations, to explore, to wonder, to work together and be kind. These are the children that take will go far because they are not only able to acquire new information – but they will know what to DO with it as well! The book provides research and background on how to teach the 3Cs, as well as dozens of activities for each and a section on how to integrate each C into state standards. All activities in the book are indexed by state standards for quick reference. Filled with fun, easy and inspiring new activities for your program! Order yours now and be the first to get started! (Note the regular price is lower than printed in last newsletter, the publisher lowered the final publication price!)

Regular Price: $25.95 Pre-order Discount Price: $22.06

 

November Sale Item: From Babysitter to Business Owner – 15% off!

The complete guide to professionalism for your child care business! Chapters cover every aspect, including: professional image, environment, curriculum, fieldtrips, communication with parents, creating a parent handbook, marketing and setting goals. My first book and considered the “must-have” manual by many Resource and Referral agencies across the country. Get it now and be ready to get your business on track for a successful new year in 2010!

Regular Price $17.95 Discount Price: $15.26

 

Order yours today at: www.patriciadischler.com!

 

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UPCOMING EVENTS

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October 3, 2009

Catholic Charities Friends of Adoption Conference

Eau Claire, Wisconsin

Keynote: Strangers Who Trust for the Sake of a Child: What parents and counselors in both closed and open adoptions can learn from a successful open adoption.

Parenting Workshop: Parenting the Adopted Child: Successful parenting techniques for behavioral problems

Contact: Magen Duffy, 608-782-0710

www.cclse.org

 

October 10, 2009

ECCOA training: Being the Best You Can Be!

Omaha, Nebraska

Full day training event, topics covered:

Turning the Job You Love into the Career You’ll Keep!

Building Partnerships with Parents

Teaching the 3 Cs

Tips & Tricks

Contact ECCOA at 402-597-4991

www.esu3.org

 

October 20, 2009

Child Development Center of St. Joseph staff training

Milwaukee, Wisconsin

Workshop: Parents Can’t Hear Me!

Contact: Agnela Lampkin 414-645-5337

www.cdcsj.org

 

October 24, 2009

New Opportunities Early Childhood Conference

Carroll, Iowa

Keynote: Crazy for Kids!

Workshops: Tips & Tricks, Teaching the 3 Cs

Contact: Katie Riesberg 712-792-9266

www.newopp.org

 

November 7, 2009

Child Care Choices Early Childhood Conference

Carlton, Minnesota

Keynote: Crazy for Kids!

Workshops: Your Space/Their Space, Teaching the 3Cs

Contact Kimberly Giles  320-251-5081

www.childcarechoices.net

 

November 14, 2009

Early Learning Coalition of Florida’s Gateway Early Childhood Conference

Live Oak, Florida

Keynote: Crazy for Kids!

Workshops: Creating a Professional Image, Teaching the 3Cs

Contact: Carrie Skinner  386-961-0126

www.elc-fg.org

 

November 19, 2009

Northern Illinois Child Care Providers Association Training

Gurnee, Illinois

Workshop: Teaching the 3 Cs

Contact: Alicia Falls  847-445-6213

 

November 20, 2009

Illinois CCR&R Train-the-Trainer Book Release Event

Bloomington, Illinois

3Cs Train-the-trainer session and book signing for Illinois R&R staff

Hosted by Community Child Care Connections

Contact: Tiffany Simmons  1-800-676-2805

www.cccconnect.org

 

November 21, 2009

Half day 3Cs Training and Book Release Event

Springfield, Illinois

3 hour training for providers/teachers following by book signing

Hosted by Community Child Care Connections

Contact: Tiffany Simmons  1-800-676-2805

www.cccconnect.org

 

 

 

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Wednesday, August 26, 2009

KIDSAKE Newsletter

KIDSAKE NEWSLETTER

AUGUST 2009

 

A Newsletter For Birthmothers, Adoptive Parent, Adoptees

& Adoption Professionals

 

Brought to you by:

Patricia Dischler

Author, Speaker, Child Care Professional, Birthmother

 

www.patriciadischler.com

 

 

In this issue:

 

1. Helping Your School Support the Adopted Child

2. Parent Corner

3. In The News

4. This Month’s Sale Item

5. Upcoming Events

 

Back to school time! I took my daughter shopping with her school list last week and while reading it walking through the aisles of notebook mountains I realized that for the first time she did not have crayons on her list! My baby is growing up. When did that happen? School is so exciting for kids, but when adoption is a part of your family it can also lead to some issues for your child. This month’s article will help you and your child make sure school stays a place for them to feel accepted and comfortable. Note: although my daughter is not adopted, the fact that her brother was placed for adoption continues to be an issue that her teachers and classmates have difficulty understanding. She’s in 3rd grade, and when the teacher says to draw a picture of her family she always draws it with Joe in the picture. But then her friends will argue and say she doesn’t have a brother. It can be very confusing for her because it is such an accepted part of her life that she doesn’t understand the confusion of others. I love how she stands up to her friends and teachers and is very matter-of-fact about it. It makes it clear that the “issue” is not hers – it’s theirs. And as she says, “I wish they would just get over it!” Families touch by adoption can change how others feel about it simply by being clear that it is NOT an “issue” unless some unfortunate, uninformed person makes it one.

Patricia

 

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I wear many hats, as do most people. While one of them is of Birthmother, the hat I wear most often is of an early childhood educator and author. With the new school season upon us, I find more and more often opportunities to wear both hats! When the adoption and school come together, it is not always good. I’ve often heard stories of adopted children with negative school experiences. This month, I’d like to offer some help to adoptive parents on how to collaborate with your school or child care provider to ensure your child’s school experience this fall is nothing but wonderful.

 

One of the challenges for every teacher and child care provider each fall is recognizing, respecting and supporting the many different types of families in their care. Over the past decade there has been a rise in adoption in the United States, and this means that more than ever teachers and providers will have opportunities to make a difference in the life of an adopted child. Adoptive parents can be instrumental in helping teachers and child care providers with this task. Who better to teach the teachers than the people who know the adopted child best?

 

The first step in building understanding is in helping teachers/providers understand that families are made through adoption because they are powered by love. Children are placed for adoption by their birthmothers because they are loved and their birthmothers are willing to sacrifice in order for their child to have a better life. Respecting a child for who they are means respecting every moment of their life, including their beginnings. Children are adopted because adoptive parents have love to give a child and made the tough choice to go through all the hoops and paperwork necessary to bring a child home through adoption. So for an adopted child, their beginnings are submersed in love from ALL the parents they have!

 

Building on this basic understanding, we illustrate for teachers/providers how important it is to value a child’s background and culture. A high percentage of adopted children are inter-country, and sharing all you can about this background of an adopted child, can lead teachers/providers to a fuller understanding of who they are. Encourage teachers/providers to see this as a wonderful opportunity to expand the minds of all the children in their care. By exploring the background culture of a child they will be making a connection between that culture and someone the other children know – these direct links are what will bring importance to the discussion and make them successful. Teachers/providers recognize how important these personal connections are to their teaching successes. This is not to say teachers/providers should isolate the child as something “different” that they talk about, rather it is an opportunity to bring new information to their group and make a connection to it that will make the information important to the children. This is something that can be done with all of the children in their care – every family has a special culture they can share.

 

For example, talking about Guatemala is very abstract for a group of preschoolers. Even bringing in items from there is disconnected from the children. However, when Annie, who is adopted from Guatemala, gets to bring in a doll that she brought with her from her home there and share it with her friends, a connection is made that brings importance to the topic for the other children. If it’s important to their friend Annie, it’s important to them.

 

Children build their view of adoption based on the reactions of the adults who care for them. When the adults are open and honest about what adoption means and show respect for the love that creates an adoptive family, children then gain an acceptance and understanding of adoption that is positive and respectful. When an adopted child becomes a part of a new child care group or new classroom of students, it is natural for the other children to have questions. Be available as a parent to visit the classrooms and provide honest answers and an atmosphere for open communication either directly with students or with the teacher/provider. Most of the children’s discussions will arise naturally, rather than be a singled-out conversation about a particular child, so preparing a teacher ahead of time on how to be responsive, honest and respectful can give the teacher the tools to respond appropriately and capitalize on these learning opportunities for all of her students.

 

Parents can help teachers/providers see that pointing out a child is adopted as a single attribute of description or labeling is no more appropriate than pointing out their race. Discussion should arise out of the context of a discussion of all the attributes that makes the child who they are. Adoptive families can share with students their adoption story and help in providing information about a child’s cultural background, increasing the knowledge and experience of all the children in the classroom.

 

Some suggestions you can provide to teachers/providers are to take time to discuss family as a general concept. Suggest they talk about members of a family, this would include step siblings, half siblings, birth families, keeping in mind there are many ways to make a family. Each child can share special things about their family, what type of foods they like, clothes they wear on special occasions, traditions they have. When teachers/providers have ongoing activities and discussions that support all families in their care it makes it possible to explore these topics with each new child that joins the group without it being an event that makes them feel singled out.

 

One very popular activity in exploring families in schools has always been the family tree. This activity brings nothing but dread to the adoptive parents. Not to mention the divorced/remarried parents. It is simply not appropriate to teach young children that there is a pyramid style structure to making a family, it singles out many children and creates feelings of not being “right” in the way their family is formed. Adoptive parents can suggest the following, more appropriate approach, to the family tree instead:

 

Draw a trunk with a large circular outline of a tree’s leaves (no branches), then give the children many small leaves cut from paper. Have them write the name of people in their family on each leaf to be pasted on the tree (in no particular design). This gives equal respect to each member put on the tree. They can add anyone in their family who is important to them – Grandparents, birthmothers, foster parents, stepparents and siblings, etc. Everyone will be in the canopy of the tree. Then the child can put their name on the trunk. (Not the families last name.) This illustrates how the child is the one who brings all of these people together into their family tree. It shows support for all those that the child loves and feels loved by.

 

Today’s adoptions are not what they have been in the past. Gone are the secrets and the judgments. Adoption today is honest, open, and respectful of the process that builds families. Information regarding current adoption practice needs to be shared with our schools and child care centers. Parents can do much to help, sharing information and ideas. As teachers learn new, positive language, and approaches to inclusion of the many types of families, children’s self esteem will be strengthened. What a great way to start out a new school year!

 

Parents, please feel free to share this article with your child’s teacher or child care provider. As someone who has worked in this field for over 20 years I can assure you they will be grateful for the information!

 

 

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Help your child this year in school by providing him or her with some learning tubs for hands-on learning! Research shows that the more senses are engaged during learning, the more successful it is in supporting brain development. Providing hands-on experiences supports this development, is fun for the children, and provides a way to work on school readiness at home.

 

The concept is simple: fill small tubs with items that support the exploration of the topic. This can be numbers, colors, letters, animals, etc. For example, alphabet tubs would have one tub for each letter filled with items that begin with that letter. Number tubs would be one for each number (as high as your child is learning to count) with that many number of identical items in each tub. Color tubs would have one tub for each color you are teaching, filled with items of that color. Animal tub would have a species label for each tub, with the different animals of that species in the tub.

 

For the tubs, you can use empty, washed, margarine tubs, or you can buy new deli containers from your local grocery store. Depending on how large your set is, look for a bin with a handle that they will fit into for storage. This set then becomes a mobile learning toy for your child.

 

When using the tubs, begin with just two or three for the child to open up and learn about, handling the items and exploring the concept. Then, over time, introduce a new cup and it’s contents. After the child explores the new tub, dump out the contents of all the tubs they have previously explored, and the new one together in a pile. Mix them up. Then have your child separate the items by putting them in the appropriate tub. This hands-on sorting game is really fun for the children (it was my daycare kids favorite!) The sensory experience of handling letter sounds, numbers and other concepts solidifies the learning experience and helps to quickly build development of this concept.

 

Start with just one – such as colors – and collect your tubs, filling them together from small items you find around the house. Make it an activity you can use to spend time together! The hunt for items to put in the tubs is just as much fun as using them when they are done! Enjoy!

 

If you’d like a head start on making an alphabet tub set – check out my sale item for August!

 

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IN THE NEWS

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Great resource for adoptive parents working on their portfolio: Check out www.ourchosenchild.com, it’s a website to help you create your family scrapbook, very beautiful! Created by Joanna Ivey, it is a great resource for putting all your memories together in a beautiful keepsake.

 

If your organization is holding a training event, please let me know and I’ll add it to the newsletter for you!

 

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August Sale Item: Alphabet Tubs - $5 Off!

This year’s top seller – Alphabet tubs – give you the tool you need to teach phonic with FUN! Each tub contains 2-3 objects beginning with that particular letter (note: most tubs contain 3 objects). Children can organize the tubs by the letters on the lids, or learn phonics through hands on experiences with the objects. Once a few sounds have been learned, objects can be mixed together and children can use their new skills to separate the objects into the correct tubs again. Continue adding tubs/sounds until children have mastered them all and can separate all objects into the letters of the alphabet. This was the favorite toy in my daycare classroom and I know it will be for your group too! Regular Price $35.00   Sale Price: $30.00

 

September Sale Item: Pre-order Discount on my new book Teaching the 3 Cs: Creativity, Curiosity & Courtesy – 15% Off!

To be released in November, you can be one of the first to get a copy by pre-ordering now before the release date! This book is a reflection of the types of activities I did at Patty Cake Preschool for over 17 years, the title was my slogan for my school. It is based not only on my personal beliefs and experience, but research from many in the early childhood field including the authors of The Creative Curriculum. Before you can teach the 3 Rs, you need to teach them the 3 Cs! Teach children to have a joy of learning, to use their imaginations, to explore, to wonder, to work together and be kind. These are the children that take will go far because they are not only able to acquire new information – but they will know what to DO with it as well! The book provides research and background on how to teach the 3Cs, as well as dozens of activities for each and a section on how to integrate each C into state standards. All activities in the book are indexed by state standards for quick reference. Filled with fun, easy and inspiring new activities for your program! Order yours now and be the first to get started!

Regular Price: $28.95 Pre-order Discount: $24.61

 

Order yours today at: www.patriciadischler.com!

 

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UPCOMING EVENTS

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August 17, 2009

Author’s Read Radio Guest

Book reading: Because I Loved You

Log on to listen at: www.blogtalkradio.com/authorsread

(Show will be in archives after Aug. 17, and can be accessed anytime!)

 

September – I’M ON VACATION!!!! First time in 4 years I won’t be traveling with a power point projector in my carry-on, just sunscreen this time (in an appropriate size bottle sealed in a Ziploc of coarse!) Can’t wait to see my Mom, sister, brother-in-law, aunt, uncle and cousins! May take all month just for the hugs. Florida, here I come!

 

(See you all at conferences again in October!)

 

If you are a member of a group planning a training event and would like to book one of my keynotes or workshops, visit the Lecture page on my website and contact me for availability. Visit www.patriciadischler.com/lecture.php.

 

 

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Friday, August 14, 2009

KIDBIZ Newsletter

KIDBIZ NEWSLETTER

AUGUST 2009

 

A Newsletter for Early Childhood & Child Care Professionals

 

Brought to you by:

Patricia Dischler

Author, Speaker, Child Care Professional

 

www.patriciadischler.com

 

 

In this issue:

 

 

1. Tea Parties for Teachers – Part III

2. Tips & Tricks

3. KIDBIZ Blog

4. In The News

5. This Month’s Sale Item

6. Upcoming Events

 

August was such a fun month, I got to go back to my roots in Dubuque for a conference and ran into some old friends while there! Aunt Mary’s is still my favorite hotel in the country! It was great to be “home” again and meet so many wonderful educators and providers. Always a pleasure to be in Iowa.

 

This month is your last installment of the Tea Party series. I’ve heard from many of you and am very pleased you are enjoying them as much as I’ve enjoyed writing them. There is so much I love about tea parties that I’ve decided to start working on a book about them, I’ll keep you posted on its progress. Meanwhile, my newest book is on the press and will be released at the beginning of November! I’m so excited to share this with you, it truly was a book written from the heart. LOTS of activities, and all indexed by state standards because I know that’s just how we do things now. If you pre-order before the publication date I’ll offer you a discount, that’ll be my “sale” item for September and October. I just know you’re going to love it!

 

My speaking calendar is getting filled up, so just a reminder that if you’re planning a conference and are thinking of me, shoot me an email with your date so I can keep it open for you. It’s always hard to tell people I’m booked already.

 

It’s a beautiful day here in Wisconsin, so I’m grabbin’ my tea pot and heading to the back yard with Amanda to make the most of it!

Hug a kid for me!

Patricia

 

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TEA PARTIES FOR TEACHERS – PART III - Party Time!

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(This is part three of a three part series on Tea Parties for Teachers. To see Part I & II, see the KIDBIZ archives on my website, May & July Newsletters.)

 

Beautiful summer days seem to be made for tea parties. The sun dappling in through the trees, creating shadows and pockets of light that are sure to hold a fairy or two, soft green grass, getting just a little long and all the more luxurious because of it. A white wicker table covered in lace, a couple of wooden folding chairs with soft floral cushions, just slightly worn around the edges, a little girl in a cheery yellow party dress with a wreath of white lilies in her hair and a sliver thin china tea cup with pink rose buds held gingerly in her hand, pinkie raised. This is a scene that many a painter has captured, many a novelist has portrayed and many a child has imagined as they sat at their plastic play table in their bedroom with their plastic tea cups and in an oversized dress up skirt they snuck out of their mother’s closet.

 

Little girls and tea parties go hand in hand. But what about little boys? Dresses? Flower in the hair? What is lace? These are not the aspects that draw in the little boys – but you bring out a big plate of white chocolate scones, and tiny chocolate cakes, and hand them a cape with dazzling red sequins inside it – and they’re in. But why go through all this? Besides the fun factor, what is the purpose?

 

Tea parties can be so much more than food, drink and dress up. They are an opportunity for imagination to thrive, for manners to be practiced, for math, and science, but more than anything, they are the perfect opportunity for conversation. For adults to model polite, and respectful, conversation, and for the children to practice it. Anyone who’s ever read a romance novel with a tea party scene in it can tell you that the tea party is nothing more than a prop for the women who are gathering for the main purpose of a good old fashioned gossip session!

 

Of coarse, I am not suggesting we teach our children to gossip, but the art of conversation has been taking some hits in this new generation of children, and a tea party can be just the “prop” teachers need to bring it back into the children’s lives. With text messaging, email, and cell phones, conversations are being whittled down to acronyms and one word declaratives, and often there are no words involved at all and symbols are used to convey feelings instead. The family dinner table is quickly disappearing into years gone by, and even long holiday dinners are being shortened to a quick stop at a local restaurant then everyone going their separate ways. Even when family meals are together, or children in school/daycare settings, the adults sit at one end of the table having their own conversations, and the children sit together at the other end. Most often, the older children are ignoring the younger ones as they secretly text friends under the table! Our young children are left with only the interaction of others the same age, and no one in the group has any experience with starting, or continuing, an in-depth conversation.

 

In previous articles, we discussed all of the developmental areas that can be touched on by preparing for the tea party – science and math in baking, creativity and problem solving in gathering/creating props. Now that you’ve got everything ready, it’s time to begin. Here are a few of the parts of the actual tea party that a teacher can use to meet developmental goals for the children:

 

Sitting at the Table: Bring some old fashioned manners back – teach the boys to hold a chair for the girls, have everyone place their napkins on their lap and fold their hands on their lap to wait for their host/hostess to begin. Elbows off the table. No one grabs food, we wait for the host/hostess first. Polite conversation during the seating such as “Hello Amanda, you are looking very pretty today!” and “So glad you could join us Thomas, my don’t you look handsome in that top hat!” As you model this type of conversation the children will pick it up, thinking it very silly – but enjoying it none-the-less!

 

Passing the Tea: However determined (child of the week, birthday child, etc.) the lead child should be the one to choose the tea pot (if you have a collection of them, which is highly recommended), or at the least, be the “host/hostess” of the party and begin the serving. Take time to demonstrate to the child the proper way to pour from a tea pot – holding it gently, one hand on the handle, the index finger of the other hand holding the center of the lid on as they tip slowly and pour. Then let this child be the one to pour the first cup for each friend at the table. This creates a leadership role for the child, building their self esteem and confidence. After the first cup is poured, children wishing to have more can pour it themselves, allowing them the opportunity to practice the pouring skills. Note: spills happen. Plan for them, don’t panic over them! Keep white tea cloths nearby to quickly dap up spills, being sure not to chastise a child for the spill but instead use it as an opportunity for them to learn – how can they avoid the spill next time? Pour slower? Pour little bits at a time? Dab it up, learn from it, then move on. If spill gets on their clothing they should have the option of changing into something different or putting a pretty napkin over their lap to cover it.

 

Sharing the Treats: The host/hostess welcomes everyone to the tea party and thanks them for coming. Then they give a brief description of the treats being served. Taking the time to notice the details of the baked goods, rather than just gobbling them up, allows the children an opportunity to use their senses and practice descriptive words. After introducing the treats, the host/hostess takes one or two, places them on their plate, then passes them to the right. If there are several plates with the goodies on them, each plate begins to be passed by the host/hostess, and continues round the table until everyone has received something. No one begins to eat until the passing is complete, and the host/hostess takes the first bite. This delay of gratification is an essential learning tool for children and another aspect rarely practiced in their life. It is an intricate aspect of creativity. Math and Science can be added to this in a couple of ways: With several plates of treats, a few different children can be asked to count the number on each plate, count the number of children at the table, divide the goodies among the children, etc. For science, dishes of sugar or cream can be available to be added to their tea – one teaspoon at a time (or less) giving each child an opportunity to experiment with the taste and how each ingredient will change it.

 

Conversation: The core of the tea party, and the most fun! The conversations at tea parties can take on what ever goals the teacher may have in mind. If it is politeness and manners, respect for others, than the conversation is focused on asking questions such as “How was your day?” “I really like that color dress on you.” “So how did your soccer game go this weekend?” “Did your Grandma come up from Florida to stay with you yet?” In other words, model for the children how to ask each other about what is important to them. Who they care about, things they care about that happened to them. Teach them to listen. To care. To reach out to each other and show how important their friends are to them through their words. If you are just beginning to hold these types of tea parties, teachers will need to model lots of the conversation, but rest assured, the children will pick up on your tone and purpose and recreate it in their own words. But it is possible to use these opportunities for conversation to meet other purposes, such as strengthening their knowledge of a particular concept. For instance, a developmental goal that week was to teach the children about weight. So the conversation could be something like, “This tea pot is very heavy when it is full, don’t you think so Jeffrey?” “You’re scones are light as a feather Terry, which do you think came out lighter – the white chocolate or the cinnamon ones?” “Little Anne thinks her tea cup is so heavy she needs two hands to lift it, what do you think Sam?” “The flowers in the middle of the table are beautiful, but the vase is so light they might tip over. What could we do to make it heavier so it won’t tip?” You get the idea. Or, let’s say you are teaching them about shapes. You could bake cookies in all the shapes you are teaching, then have discussions such as “This circle cookies is very yummy, is there anything else on our table that is a circle too?” “My triangle cookie is the same shape as the cape you are wearing Tommy!” “What does this shape make you think of Sarah?” And so on. Simply begin a conversation, help the children to wonder, to imagine, to problem solve. To be polite, to wait turns to answer, to acknowledge someone talking to them, to listen to each other. When the conversation begins to fade, change the subject and get it going again. DON’T RUSH! Children often want to dig into the snacks, gobble them down, and run off. The point of the tea party is to slow down. To take the time to notice the details, to notice each other. You’ll be amazed at how this begins to draw the children in, so often the adults in their lives don’t include them in in-depth discussions, it may be new to them, but it will definitely make an impact. They will come to treasure and anticipate these opportunities to be heard, to listen, and to really explore fully what’s rumbling around their heads.

 

These are only a few of the benefits of tea parties. There are dozens more. All it takes is a teacher that is willing to take the time  - and to show a child they are worth this time. Tea parties give children the opportunity to try on new roles, to become the person they dress up to be, or to finally take off the imaginary mask they typically wear all day and let their true selves shine through. Tea parties can be a great opportunity for inviting new guests – a new teacher, a director, a speaker – to join in and really get to know everyone.

 

I recently received a letter from Sarah, a director at a center, who had each of the classrooms in the center take turns having tea parties in which she could be the honored guest. The children got very excited about having a special guest and put a lot of work into making it a delightful experience for all. Sarah said, “I am loving the chance to get to know them better through the tea parties and I am hoping to extend this to the kindergarten, first and second graders.” What a great way to create a family atmosphere in a school or center, having the staff spend these special times with the children getting to know them better!

 

I hope you have all enjoyed these articles on tea parties. I have so much more I’d love to share with you on the benefits of tea parties – so I’m creating a new workshop and also a new book titled “Tea Parties for Teachers – Meeting Developmental Milestones One Cup At A Time!” I hope you’ll consider giving them a try and start creating priceless memories for your group as I did.

 

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TIPS AND TRICKS

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Here’s some tips for finding those tea party props you’ll be needed to get started!

 

Visit your local second hand stores to find china sets at a reasonable price. Stock up on several patterns so you can vary them according to your themes. Go for the real china to really make the event special. You can also sometimes find them at garage sales, and if you explain what you plan to use them for, possibly get them donated to your school or day care. Also, give Craig List a try, sometimes there are great deals on sets there as well.

 

Ask all the parents and all your friends and relatives to donate their used bridesmaid dresses to you. These make great dress up clothes! Skirts can be cut off to create capes or smaller skirts. Tops can be made into smaller dresses or vests or jackets for the boys.

 

When at garage sales or second hand stores, look for pretty curtains to use for tablecloths. You can often find pretty lace curtains that can become beautiful tablecloths.

 

Have the children make vases to decorate the table. Gather all the plain clear florists vases everyone seems to have too many off (ask parents to donate) and decorate them with paints or decoupage’ with colorful tissue and glue thinned with water.

 

Cut out large circles of paper and let the children create their own doilies to put on the serving platters for the treats. Fold them like you would to make snowflakes and cut circles and other shapes to make pretty doilies.

 

Check out more tips in: 101 Tips & Tricks, available at www.patriciadischler.com

 

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KIDBIZ BLOG

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Here in Wisconsin they have passed a new law stating that anyone transporting 6 or more children in a vehicle (for field trips, etc) will have to install an alarm that will sound if the driver leaves the vehicle and someone is still inside. This was in response to the unfortunate death of a child when left in a van at a center in Milwaukee this year on a hot day. The law applies to centers, school programs and family child care providers. There is more information on my blog, but I’d like to invite everyone to visit and let me know how you feel about this. Do other states have this policy? What if your state decided to do it, would it affect whether or not you did field trips? Join in the conversation and visit http://kidbiz.blogspot.com today!

 

The KIDBIZ Blog is a place where I can share all the great articles and information I have access to and think you should have access to as well! If you’ve found a great article or website that you think should be shared with others in our field, send it to me so I can post it and pass it on!

 

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IN THE NEWS

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Annie E. Casey Foundation KIDS COUNT Data Book

Now available on their website, this Data Book provides a national and state-by-state look at the status of children in the United States. There is also a companion essay that outlines a series of action steps to improve the nation’s use of data in creating policies that improve outcomes for children and families. To view these documents visit:

http://datacenter.kidscount.org.

 

Sign up to receive FREE issue of Modern Handmade Child

A new magazine put together with the help of WFCCA Vice President, Kim Gachnang. Lots of great learning games and articles for providers and teachers. You can sign up on the website to receive free quarterly issues. Visit http://modernhandmadechild.com/index.html.

Also visit Kim’s website for her own learning games, classroom helpers, unique promotional clothespins and more at http://tootsiebear.etsy.com.

 

Provider Appreciation Day 2010

NACCRRA and NAFCC join together to help organizations and individuals celebrate Provider Appreciation Day! Visit the website for loads of ideas and products to help you make the most of this event: www.ProviderAppreciation.org.

 

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THIS MONTH’S SALE ITEMS

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August Sale Item: Alphabet Tubs - $5 Off!

This year’s top seller – Alphabet tubs – give you the tool you need to teach phonic with FUN! Each tub contains 2-3 objects beginning with that particular letter (note: most tubs contain 3 objects). Children can organize the tubs by the letters on the lids, or learn phonics through hands on experiences with the objects. Once a few sounds have been learned, objects can be mixed together and children can use their new skills to separate the objects into the correct tubs again. Continue adding tubs/sounds until children have mastered them all and can separate all objects into the letters of the alphabet. This was the favorite toy in my daycare classroom and I know it will be for your group too! Regular Price $35.00   Sale Price: $30.00

 

September Sale Item: Pre-order Discount on my new book Teaching the 3 Cs: Creativity, Curiosity & Courtesy – 15% Off!

To be released in November, you can be one of the first to get a copy by pre-ordering now before the release date! This book is a reflection of the types of activities I did at Patty Cake Preschool for over 17 years, the title was my slogan for my school. It is based not only on my personal beliefs and experience, but research from many in the early childhood field including the authors of The Creative Curriculum. Before you can teach the 3 Rs, you need to teach them the 3 Cs! Teach children to have a joy of learning, to use their imaginations, to explore, to wonder, to work together and be kind. These are the children that take will go far because they are not only able to acquire new information – but they will know what to DO with it as well! The book provides research and background on how to teach the 3Cs, as well as dozens of activities for each and a section on how to integrate each C into state standards. All activities in the book are indexed by state standards for quick reference. Filled with fun, easy and inspiring new activities for your program! Order yours now and be the first to get started!

Regular Price: $28.95 Pre-order Discount: $24.61

 

Order yours today at: www.patriciadischler.com!

 

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UPCOMING EVENTS

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August 17, 2009

Author’s Read Radio Guest

Book reading: Because I Loved You

Log on to listen at: www.blogtalkradio.com/authorsread

 

September – I’M ON VACATION!!!! First time in 4 years I won’t be traveling with a power point projector in my carry-on, just sunscreen this time (in an appropriate size bottle sealed in a Ziploc of coarse!) Can’t wait to see my Mom, sister, brother-in-law, aunt, uncle and cousins! May take all month just for the hugs. Florida, here I come!

 

(See you all at conferences again in October!)

 

 

If you are a member of a group planning a training event and would like to book one of my keynotes or workshops, visit the Lecture page on my website and contact me for availability. Visit www.patriciadischler.com/lecture.php.

 

 

PERMISSION TO REPRINT: You may reprint any items from KIDBIZ Newsletter in your print or electronic publication, but please include the following paragraph:

 

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If you like this newsletter, please pass it on to your fellow colleagues.

 

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www.patriciadischler.com

 

 

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Wednesday, July 22, 2009

KIDSAKE Newsletter

KIDSAKE NEWSLETTER

JULY 2009

 

A Newsletter For Birthmothers, Adoptive Parent, Adoptees

& Adoption Professionals

 

Brought to you by:

Patricia Dischler

Author, Speaker, Child Care Professional, Birthmother

 

www.patriciadischler.com

 

 

In this issue:

 

1. Papa’s Tractor

2. Parent Corner

3. In The News

4. This Month’s Sale Item

5. Upcoming Events

 

I recently was able to spend a couple of days with my son, Joe. I realize this visit was only possible because of the choices his parents and I made regarding open adoption 24 years ago. I hope that by sharing this, those of you who are still fearful of open adoption will get a glimpse of how, years down the road, the decision you make will drastically affect the future.

 

Patricia

 

P.S. In case you’re wondering, no – you did not miss the June newsletter, I was traveling/speaking all month and just didn’t get the time to do one! Sorry!

 

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My Dad had this old Allis tractor he used at the campground to haul wagons full of squealing children around on sunny Saturdays. He loved that old tractor and any attempts at convincing him he should upgrade were quickly shut down. You often had to grab the lever sticking out the front of the engine to crank it in order to start the engine, and Dad thought this was really cool.

 

While the other adults didn’t hold much appreciation for this old tractor, there were many who did – the children. Joe was one of them. I have photos of Joe, smiling from ear to ear, hanging on for dear life while trying to balance standing on one of the axels and holding the back of Dad’s seat as they bumped along the gravel road through the campground, the wagon in back overflowing with muddy, happy children. To Joe, Papa’s tractor was the coolest thing around. They were two peas in a pod on that thing.

 

Two years ago, when Papa passed away and Mom prepared to move to Florida, Mom was planning to just leave the old tractor at the campground for the new owners, hoping they didn’t mind the hunk of junk she was leaving behind. But as we went through photos to pack away, I came across the one of Joe and Papa on the tractor, and suggested Mom ask Joe if he would like to have it. There was always something about Joe’s personality, and soul, that reminded everyone of Papa. It never surprised us that whatever Papa enjoyed or loved, or appreciated, that Joe did as well. Mom made the call and in a week Joe gleefully showed up with a truck and trailer to haul the old tractor away.

 

We couldn’t get it started the day he picked it up. Mom kept reassuring Joe that he didn’t have to feel obligated to take the piece of junk, that it’d be okay to leave it. But Joe didn’t care. Never mind that he lived in town, in an apartment, not a field in sight. He loved that tractor as much as Papa did and wasn’t about to let it go. We shoved it up onto the trailer and away he went.

 

In just a couple of months, Joe sent us a photo of him sitting on the tractor – his “Baby Allis” as he called it. Papa always named his trucks and equipment too.

 

Baby Allis was gleaming. The rusty old wheels had been scrubbed to a shine; the grease covered parts had been replaced with shiny new ones. And she had a beautiful new coat of red paint. Other than a new seat, and a few minor parts, she was completely in tact and showing all her dazzling potential. Joe, of course, was sitting proudly in the seat, looking more like Papa than ever before. He had had her completely restored. Just like Papa, he saw the potential in her and worked on her until others could see it too.

 

Not long ago, I got a chance to travel to Iowa to visit with Joe, and see Baby Allis. Joe had recently bought a house on the edge of town and before we could set a foot inside to check out his first home, he just had to open the garage door and show off his baby. He proudly pointed out every detail he had cleaned up and polished, and the extras he had added to bring her back to her full potential. If I had closed my eyes I would have sworn I was standing there listening to Papa.

 

Later that day, we went back to the hotel where my Mom, my daughter Amanda, and I were staying. We talked for hours and, just before sunset, Joe said he had a surprise for me and asked me to come with him. We drove back to his house and he hit the garage door opener, looked at me and asked – “Wanna take her for a ride?”

 

With that smile, who could say no? We hopped up onto Baby Allis, sharing the seat, and he started her up. No crank needed, she purred like a kitten. Joe put her in gear and we turned out of his subdivision onto a county road leading out of town. The sun was just sitting on the horizon, blaze orange and sending sun dogs through the clouds. We putted down the road in silence, passing fields of corn and oats, small farms, and ditches bursting with chicory and Queen Anne’s Lace. After awhile Joe said, “Guess where my Heaven is.” I knew the answer – right there on that road, on Papa’s tractor, surrounded by God’s country.

 

When Dad had bought the campground – then a valley with nothing but nature filling it to the brim with the Mississippi hugging it close – Dad had drove up the hill on that same old tractor and announced to us all with arms spread wide – “This is my Heaven!”

 

Joe told me that after a tough day at the restaurant, he liked to get on Baby Allis and take a long drive out into the country. When he did this he always felt like Papa was right there, along for the ride. He’d talk to Papa about his life, and always felt that he was close by and watching out for him. That day I got to join him, I could feel it too.

 

Joe told me how there were a lot of times when he was pretty upset about his job, or something else in his life, and all he had to do was get on Baby Allis and go for a ride, and Papa would help him work it out and get back on track.

 

I felt very privileged to share that same trip with Joe and Papa. I knew that it was something Papa would have loved, and that if there is a heaven, for Papa it would have been right there taking a tractor ride with Joe.

 

On my drive home the next day, I got thinking about that experience. I realized that none of it would have happened if it had not been for his parents being willing to face their fears and agree to an open adoption. Joe never would have met Papa. Never had known there was a man out there whom he mirrored so closely in heart and soul. Never had gotten Baby Allis, and never had the opportunity to take a trip to ease his bad days.

 

I thank God everyday that Joe is in my life. But along with that comes an enormous amount of gratitude to Jerry and Kathy, Joe’s parents, for being brave enough to let me into theirs. Because of this, Baby Allis lives on.

 

 

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PARENT CORNER: Shaving Cream Fun

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Summer is one of the best times of year to enjoy shaving cream! Since you can do activities with it outside and easily hose it off, it’s time to really go wild with it!

 

Get several cans of shaving cream and squirt them into buckets, giving your children each their own bucket and a large paint brush. And don’t forget to join in and get one for yourself! It also helps if everyone is dressing in bathing suits.

 

Let everyone “paint” each other’s bodies with the shaving cream. You know how much they love a bubble bath? Well, this is the same idea only kicked up a notch! Kids love getting to cover each other, and themselves, making beards, weird hairdos or using it to paint on shirts or pants. When the play ends, simply hose everyone off!

 

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IN THE NEWS

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Great resource for adoptive parents working on their portfolio: Check out www.ourchosenchild.com, it’s a website to help you create your family scrapbook, very beautiful! Created by Joanna Ivey, it is a great resource for putting all your memories together in a beautiful keepsake.

 

If your organization is holding a training event, please let me know and I’ll add it to the newsletter for you!

 

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THIS MONTH’S SALE ITEMS

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July Sale Item: NEW! Trainer Guide - From Babysitter to Business Owner – 25% Introductory Sale Price! 

Everything you need to present a half day of training based on the book, From Babysitter to Business Owner just like the author! Kit includes: From Babysitter to Business Owner, the author’s Power Point presentation for a four hour training, complete lecture, guide to splitting the training into 3 separate workshops, participant handouts (with rights to copy), and one complete copy of the Patty Cake Preschool Parent Handbook. Everything you need to present to child care providers on topics of professionalism, policies & contracts, parent communication and professional image. Regular price (beginning August 1st): $250.00   INTRODUCTORY SALE PRICE: $187.00

 

August Sale Item: Alphabet Tubs - $5 Off!

This year’s top seller – Alphabet tubs – give you the tool you need to teach phonic with FUN! Each tub contains 2-3 objects beginning with that particular letter (note: most tubs contain 3 objects). Children can organize the tubs by the letters on the lids, or learn phonics through hands on experiences with the objects. Once a few sounds have been learned, objects can be mixed together and children can use their new skills to separate the objects into the correct tubs again. Continue adding tubs/sounds until children have mastered them all and can separate all objects into the letters of the alphabet. This was the favorite toy in my daycare classroom and I know it will be for your group too! Regular Price $35.00   Sale Price: $30.00

 

Order yours today at: www.patriciadischler.com!

 

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UPCOMING EVENTS

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July 31, 2009

Denver, Colorado

KAAN Adoption Conference

Positive Interactions in Adoption

For more information visit: www.KAANet.com

 

August 7 & 8, 2009

Dubuque, Iowa

MVECEC Early Childhood Conference

Professional Image

Fabulous Fieldtrips

Teaching the 3 C’s

For more information visit: www.project-concern.org or call 563-557-1628

 

August 17, 2009

Author’s Read Radio Guest

Book reading: Because I Loved You

Log on to listen at: www.blogtalkradio.com/authorsread

 

 

If you are a member of a group planning a training event and would like to book one of my keynotes or workshops, visit the Lecture page on my website and contact me for availability. Visit www.patriciadischler.com/lecture.php.

 

 

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Patricia Dischler

Author, From Babysitter to Business Owner, Because I Loved You, Tips and Tricks  and The Patty Cake Kids & The Lost Imagination Cap.

www.patriciadischler.com

 

 

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